Alryt so last nyt i had this major venting moment n i typed out a blog. n i was like ok ,wait a second, calm youreself, im probably being mean and over reacting and ya anyway how do i know that nobody tells guys theses things so i left it. Only to have a day where some guy was a major idiot to a bestest of myn , he sorta 4got to think about wat he sid and was damaging so now i decided , my boys obvoiusly need to hear this , and here's what i stopped myself from sayng yesterday.
A friend of mine and I had a really awesome lunch today and in that lunch we decided that our church needed a relationship course similar to that of HP ( a pentecostal church in the area). we decided that our course would be in two parts , How not to be Baptist boy and How not to be idiot. This got me thinking ,later on when i was talking to a different friend and expounding on the general innappropriateness/ oddness of boys. And we were like why don't they get it ? Only to realise that boys and girls have very different perspectives and roles to play in society and also that guys aren't taught like girls to protect their christian family of the opposite sex. By that i mean; as a girl it's drummed into your head from the time you become a teenager that you need to dress modestly so as to not lead your brothers into sin, you are then taught the appropriate ways of male and female contact so as not to cause any broken legs( stumbling).
However,it does not seem as though boys are taught the reverse of these skills, such as how to guard your sisters heart so that she doesn't fall and i know i have a blog on this already ,but i don't care because every day i'm confronted with how boys don't get the need to protect other peoples feelings e.g a guy likes a girl and does not tell her as he is "waiting on the Lord," not realising that when you like someone it's not all about you and that someone else's feelings are involved and that someone else is getting hurt .i'm not saying don't wait on the Lord , but i do believe that we often use that as an excuse to not do what we're called to do AND hows about waiting on the Lord together with the other person cause i really don't see how a relationship can be ruined if you're like "hey, i think i have feelings for you , but i'm not sure what God is saying so could you pray about it too" sure there will probably be that initial akwardness ,but in the long run you'll be better off cause you dealt with the issue as opposed to pretending it does not exist. And now for the people you don't like , girls don't only cover up to protect those they like they cover up to protect everyone. And boys should do the same, keep themselves towards themselves unless they intend on declaring not so spontaneous declarations of undying love.
So ok i have now vented and am now at peace , but seriously people,lets try to look out for someone else's interests and protect someone else from falling. I would also like to add that i do know that there a vast no. of guys who attempt to care and a vast no. of girls who don't so this isn't one- sided .
oh and by the way , this is in a distinctly christian context.
